More often than not we will find that our discontent with outer reality is a reflection of the neglected and unresolved yearnings of our soul. Our displeasure with some aspect of our career often points to a conflict or unresolved dilemma of our life’s purpose; a pattern of problems with particular types of people mirrors a hidden and ugly quality we would rather not face in ourselves; or a preoccupation with trivial fears and phobias may be set off by failing to surrender to a greater internal battle. A failure to engage in deep psychological work to find the origin of such external distress that really arises from within tends to lead us in an illusory path of seeking relief. We may habitually change jobs, partners, places of residence, religions, friends, etc- all at an attempt to be released from the debilitating internal struggle of psychological conflicts that most times erroneously reflect external circumstances, people, and events. These attempts prove to be futile in the long run as the person may seek release through extreme escape behaviors of severe isolation and compulsive habits. When we perceive there is no where to turn to, when life gets incredibly uncomfortable to bear, the result is the beginning of addictive behavior. Addiction is a desperate attempt to find release from external and internal conflict when resolution cannot be found- it is the mind’s most resourceful way of getting free from a build up of psychological madness that threatens to obliterate the little comfort that is left.
Addiction personifies a universal problem. Society is on the go and yet so stagnant, so fast paced and yet ridden with a melancholic disposition. We are going no where fast, tending to problems erroneously or superficially, fatally ignoring the cries of our psychological lives. The end result always being a series of temporary departures from reality where our lives and structure remain unchanged. Perhaps its time to reckon that we have missed the mark, that we’ve been looking for answers in all the wrong places and as long as we continue in the same direction, we won’t find peace but a disruption, or even worse, an obliteration of life.
Healing begins when we are tired, when we stop to say there is something wrong here, and perhaps it’s within me. Facing oneself honestly is painful-the mirror doesn’t change to our opposing responses or sensibilities. However, it is only through the undertaking of swallowing hard truth about ourselves and deciding to take action is when the possibility of a better life is made apparent.